Last summer, I interrogated myself about my sexuality. I’d ask myself why I chose to be this way. I’d thought of myself as abnormal, queer, and wished to be “normal”. This time and year though, I realized I didn't get to choose it, it chose me.
Being gay, lesbian or straight is not a choice we humans make. Sexuality is rooted in desire and pleasure, and we bear the tragedy of not choosing it. If you're confused, think about it the same way you never had to question yourself why you like strawberries, or why you hate the tomatoes in soup. Sexual orientation is driven by unconscious feelings and actions that have zero relevance to morality or rebellion.
Credits: PinkNews
Some may say that religion defines queer attraction as an abonimation—it is a sin for man to lay with male the same way with women. But nature sees it differently. We see it in penguins who mate for life, no matter the gender. We see it in giraffes, where up to 90% of observed mating behavior occurs between males. We see it in Bottlenose dolphins—animals with the closest form of heart and emotional intelligence to our own.
Nature is filled with expressions of love and partnership that contradicts heterosexual norms. If animals act purely on instinct without moral rebellion, then their behavior proves that same-sex desire is a natural variation of existence. Why would a creator fill nature with such variety, only to draw the line at human hearts?
I’ll never forget the guilt I felt the first time I had feelings for a girl the same way I wish it were for a boy. The constant pressure and reminder I put myself through as I forced myself to catch feelings for a guy is something I never want anyone to experience. I would hate being the odd one out. While my peers were talking about how a boy's hair looked so pretty and fluffy, I thought about the girl I made eye contact with at lunch. I would constantly think about being abandoned and mistreated, just because I'm different.
Credits: VnExpress
Walking through our own hallways, it's easy to forget how many students are quietly carrying that same weight—laughing along with jokes that sting, or editing themselves to belong. A real community is built through acceptance and safety. I’d take the easier path, but I now know it shouldn't be a crime to love someone fully—even when that person isn't who others expect. So the next time you catch yourself about to frown on LGBTQ+ people, understand that it’s not a choice, it's simply who they are.
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